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Re: Child rearing (was: Nothing personal, but...)
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Wed, 20 Jun 2001 14:57:25 GMT
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Further, it is my opinion that punishing both children whenever it is not
easily determinable who is at fault engenders the notion that if you can
just muddy the waters as to fault, you can get away with stuff to the extent
of your victim getting punished just as badly as you do.

Not particularly fair, IMHO and not a message I choose to send to my
children (who are now old enough to understand right and wrong at least to a
limited extent). I always try to determine fault first if I can. The faulter
gets more of a punishment, although both may get in trouble for fighting.
Sometimes I can't determine fault and so I go with the "you're both in
trouble" approach.

Tying it back... I reject the notion that Scott and I are equally at fault
here. I'm not the only person who feels that way either. I also reject the
notion that the person who acknowledges *some fault* is *more* at fault,
just in case that should happen to come up...



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  Re: Child rearing (was: Nothing personal, but...)
 
(...) I agree 100% Scott A (...) (23 years ago, 20-Jun-01, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)

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(...) From a simply pragmatic standpoint, I never saw the "no supper" punishment as that effective, including those few occasions when I was subject to it. It was too vague a punishment to have any lasting effect, even in terms of negative (...) (23 years ago, 20-Jun-01, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)

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