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Re: Inter-racial, Inter-religious, Inter-national relationships
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lugnet.off-topic.debate
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Wed, 2 May 2001 00:53:12 GMT
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In lugnet.off-topic.debate, Scott P. Costello writes:
> >
> > > - I find the above a good thing. People should marry for love or
> > > compatability or whatever and not because the person they are partnering
> > > with happens to be the right xxxx.
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> Keep in mind that mature love is the culmination of shared interests and
> experiences, in short love is made not found. Compatibility and common
> interests are what attract people to each other, but ultimately the decision
> to commit to someone is deeper.
Agreed. Initial attraction is great but unless you have a basis of trust,
understanding etc. to build on, there are not many places you can go from there.
> > OK, but what if someone is standing between a crossroads, trying to decide
> > between two people they know to make the relation deeper. One of them is the
> > "right xxxx" and one isn't. Both are really great people, etc, yadda yadda.
> > Wouldn't it make sense to give a shot for the "right" one first?
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> A decision is always hardest when it is not between a good and a bad choice,
> but two good choices. Ultimately if both people are "great people", then
> neither decision is wrong.
Interesting point.
> I believe there are a great number of people that can make us happy in this life.
Well, being a romantic, I believe in one true love. Granted, not everyone
has a perfect match, nobody's perfect and thus by association no
relationship can be perfect. And not everyone finds that "someone special".
But I believe that if you find that someone (which is rare and precious!)
you can have a lifelong relationship, sharing both the good and bad times
and being happy. Maybe I'm "young and naive", but my opinion stands nonetheless.
> (granted very few that could put up with me).
Heehee...
> Finally do not use the racial question to solve a quandry that
> goes much deeper, although it does sound like a good excuse to not make a
> difficult decision.
Like I mentioned, I was playing devil's advocate there. That's an entirely
different situation than the one I'm facing, believe-you-me.
-Shiri
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