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Re: Some Weird Action Team turns 4 years old!
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Wed, 16 Apr 2003 18:44:23 GMT
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In lugnet.off-topic.debate, John P. Henderson writes:
> In lugnet.general, Thomas Stangl writes:
> > BTW, I'd rather be someone's "major disappointment" with my <sarcasm> SO brutal ways
> > </sarcasm> and prepare them for life in the Real World, than have some innocent that
> > thinks the world owes them everything step out in the world and get run over by a
> > figurative Mack truck. Tough Love, and all, you know. Better a little pain in
> > preparation for the constant pain of Real Life than taking it all at once when they
> > leave their obviously sheltered life.
>
> I am all for "keeping it real" in the sense that I don't care much for
> 'sugar coating' things, and I can get annoyed if I feel someone is always
> 'sugar coating' what they share with me (this happens a lot where I work
> actually). But at the same time, I disagree with the notion that Real Life
> is somehow a horrible constant pain (as you imply). In my experience, Real
> Life can be an amazing, refreshing, and enlightening thing. It can have as
> many positive things as negative ones. Part of me wonders whether the
> apparent proliferation of the negative stems from those who have attitudes
> that Real Life has to be so bad all the time.
>
> -Hendo
I make my website for me. If folks don't like it, well, they don't have to
surf to it.
I also post here in LUGNET--again, in a newsgroup such as this, why get your
knickers in a knot over what other folks say?
Praise is nice but unnecessary.
Negative posts are 'background noise' and just comes with the 'public'
display that we have going on here, and should be taken as such.
Constructive criticism is always welcome.
The world is full of all sorts of different folks--some who just want to
trash (add them to your ignore list), some who want "fuzzy warm golly gee"
feelings wherever they go (cute but gets a little thick) and some who just
speak their minds without being malicious.
I like supportive folks who are honest, but not malicious or 'biting comments'.
It's what you learn in 'reducing confrontation' classes--how you 'promote'
your ideas has a profound effect--
"Well that sucks! You're dumb and you wasted my time!" probably isn't a
great way of promoting betterment in anybody.
"Oh, that's an interesting site. Maybe you should think about using
(whatever) less, and maybe if you look at this example over here, you could
incorporate that idea..." is a better way of improving things.
I dunno, I like conflict resolution over biting sarcasm (unless it's in
o.t-d, in which case no holds barred ;) )
Anyway, 'nuff from this neck of the woods...
Dave K
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| (...) Thank you. The above states my position pretty well, except I would add ", nor REQUIRED" to the last sentence. (...) Yes and no. Sometimes a negative post will get someone to think about what will happen in a similar situation in the future. (...) (22 years ago, 16-Apr-03, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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| (...) I am all for "keeping it real" in the sense that I don't care much for 'sugar coating' things, and I can get annoyed if I feel someone is always 'sugar coating' what they share with me (this happens a lot where I work actually). But at the (...) (22 years ago, 16-Apr-03, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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