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Re: No promises when I'll be done, but...
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Tue, 17 Oct 2000 23:15:47 GMT
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In lugnet.off-topic.debate, Todd Lehman writes:
> I sure didn't mean to insult or upset anyone with issues, and I realize
> everyone has them -- one kind or another. It's just when a filthy rotten
> troll attitude comes out so strongly in someone who seems so oblivious or
> ignorant of it, it's tough to remember that sending a personal email is
> better than posting a public reply. I hate to make excuses, though, so I'll
> agree that my approach in what I said back to Matthew was wrong, and I'd
> better leave it at that.
I should say one thing: My comment about perfectionism and alcoholism wasn't
meant as a jab or stab -- on the contrary, I meant it as a very serious
question (not that I expect a response) and empathize with anyone suffering
from either or living or knowing anyone who suffers from either. When I was
younger I suffered from acute perfectionism and to some extent today still
suffer from it somewhat, but have learned to keep it in check and take things
much lighter. I researched the topic a few years ago and it turned out that
many adult perfectionists have at least one parent who themselves is
perfectionist in some way or is either alcoholic or a child of an alcoholic.
I'm not sure how I became a perfectionist at a young age but both of my parents
are perfectionists to some extent, and my father is a workaholic (actually, he
just loves solving problems).
When someone lets perfectionism or intolerance run their life, it can be a
major problem for them, especially when they don't realize what is really in
control and that there are ways to help.
--Todd
[Disclaimer: I am not a psychologist, psychiatrist, or cognative therapist.]
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| Todd Lehman wrote in message ... (...) wasn't (...) was (...) things (...) that (...) alcoholic. (...) parents (...) he (...) Mine are both ;( (...) in (...) I know what you mean, it nearly destroyed mine. Last summer I could not even go outside (...) (24 years ago, 17-Oct-00, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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| (...) Me either. I haven't gotten really mad in a long time and I've somewhat forgotten how to act professionally while mad. I guess I need more practice! (...) Well, technically, yes, of course...but I don't see any clear-cut grounds for that, do (...) (24 years ago, 17-Oct-00, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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