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Hello All,
I wish to wrap this up, I hope this has NOT offended anyone in anyway, as a
communtiy I have respect for everyone but at times I get a bit angry, Dedrie
is TRUE in that I did not read it all as saying that dedrie got a mis-
understanding when Andreas posted it as I could get it from my local shop,
which obviously I couldn't I hop Dedrie and I can gain our communtiy
friendship again as I would like to, as for me I am going to chill out till
september and I understand my youth and inexperience on Lugnet, sorry to all
who have been hurt or regarded des-respective suring this discussion I really
never thought that such I thing would happen, just simply trying to sell some
Lego sets in the marketplace section. I hope everyone chills by the time I
come back, thankyou to all your support, especially Kerry and Dedrie who has
put up with my behaviour lately, I have had trouble also lately at school, for
collecting Lego, I would much appericiate and heat your comments, but I guess
it is good in a way as that I can get all the lego off my friends, eg. 6086:
Black Knights Castle.
Regards to All,
James
In lugnet.market.buy-sell-trade, Deidre Rushton Brumby writes:
> In lugnet.market.buy-sell-trade, Kerry Raymond writes:
> >
> > LUGnet is a community, but it is not just a community of adults. As far as I
> > am aware, children are welcome on LUGnet too. Todd, would you care to
> > comment on this?
>
> Kerry, I think we all realise that children are welcome, and I have never
> said nor meant to imply otherwise.
>
> >
> > In real life, most adults communicate differently with children than they do
> > with adults, reflecting our understanding of a different level of maturity.
> > We tolerate outbursts from children in a way we do not from adults, etc. The
> > problem of an on-line community is that we don't have an awareness of
> > someone's adult/child status, so we do not make that automatic adjustment of
> > communication/tolerance/etc.
> >
> > I do not think it is reasonable to expect children on LUGnet to behave as
> > adults. On the contrary, I think it is the adults who have to show their
> > maturity by being a bit more tolerant and understanding.
> > Perhaps we should all include our age in each posting, so we know who we are
> > dealing with.
>
> James seems to have a problem with being recognised as 12, even though
> he usually goes out of his way to state it himself. Apparently if
> someone else says it, it is among other things highly insulting and he does
> not wish people to take his age into account when dealing with him. He
> needs to make up his mind on this point. I pointed out that he was 12 so
> that hopefully other people would take this into account when dealing
> with him, he does write seemingly contradictory things at times and I
> have mostly put that down to youth and inexperience, which apparently
> is rude and insulting too. Would he rather we put it down to something
> else? If I say the alternatives that come to mind then that _would_ be
> rude and insulting, even if they were true.
>
> I have tried to tolerate James and I have always taken his age into account
> when replying to him. If he'd read my post properly he would perhaps
> have realised that I was offering alternatives to explain what may or may
> not have been a misunderstanding on the part of the other posters who
> questioned this transaction in the first place. Instead I get in reply a
> torrent of childish abuse in email.
>
> The train saga, on the other hand, was a situation of his own doing and
> there for anyone to see on lugnet. If I were considering a trade with
> James I'd want to know about that, it has nothing to do with his being
> a child or not. I stated that I didn't know if it was ever satisfactorily
> resolved, giving the seller a chance to clear that up. Pete W did on his
> behalf.
>
> It's obvious that some people think James may not be being upfront with
> them, a point that James needs to recognise may be doing him a dis-service
> with respect to possible future trades. So, he needs to work on being
> more clear and effective in some of his communications. How is he going
> to learn that if no-one can offer that advice?
>
> Most children (teens) here on Lugnet can and do act maturely, that doesn't
> mean that all of them should be expected to behave that way. James
> wants to be treated like an adult and yet he doesn't think he has to try
> and act like one, so I stick with my comment that if he wants respect he
> should act respectfully. He certainly hasn't done that with me. The comments
> about being part of a community originally came from James (here on lugnet
> and in his email to me) but his version is terribly one-sided.
>
> Everyone deserves respect regardless of their age (or anything else)
> but I'm afraid that James lost mine when he sent me that email.
>
> Deidre
> drb@tasmail.com
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| Hello? Is it Septmember already? I thought you were merely spectating only from now on? Oh wait maybe I forgot that what you say is not quite what you mean. My bad. Santosh September means that i'll have a job during the glorified school athletics (...) (24 years ago, 10-Aug-00, to lugnet.market.buy-sell-trade)
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| (...) Kerry, I think we all realise that children are welcome, and I have never said nor meant to imply otherwise. (...) James seems to have a problem with being recognised as 12, even though he usually goes out of his way to state it himself. (...) (24 years ago, 10-Aug-00, to lugnet.market.buy-sell-trade)
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