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Re: Excellent article
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Sat, 11 Aug 2001 18:24:28 GMT
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In lugnet.off-topic.debate, Matt Brooks writes:
> I just buzzed through Time.com and saw THIS excellent article on
> parenting.
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> http://www.time.com/time/covers/1101010806/cover.html
So, I have to ask. What's so excellent about it?
> Being 23 years old, and approaching the brand new, first ever,
> niece/nephew event horizon in the middle of September, I've found my
> thoughts turning more and more to considering having a child. Along with
> that, I think about how I would go about raising a child in today's
> culture.
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> This article definitely gave me some food for thought. Anybody else care
> to share?
Sure. I'm deeply disturbed by the seeming perception that the only two states
that a child can occupy are a) subordinate inferiors and b) overindulged family
tyrants.
Why is it so tough for people to grasp that there is an actually fair way to
treat kids? Treat them the way you treat your best friends. That is, they
don't get to tell you what to do, and you don't get to tell them what to do.
But magically, you both do stuff to make each other happy.
And kids do have a right to some of the family discretionary income. It is
impossible to 'spoil' them by purchasing toys. If you can afford it (I mean,
it creats no hardship on the family to purchase) then you aren't inherently
giving more than they deserve. And if you can't, then obviously it isn't an
issue.
And you can't give too much attention or affection either. It seems to be a
common misunderstanding that when you see a child who is being allowed to
publically misbehave, the assumption is that the child has been given too much
affection/attention/freedom. The fact is that the child is either experiencing
an uncommon emotional outburst (which can be excused), or has not had the
difference between freedom and license made clear.
Chris
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| (...) Of course children deserve love and fair treatment, but it doesn't make sense to me to say we (adults) shouldn't tell kids what to do. Perhaps you're being too general with that statement. Parents ARE here to tell kids (and show them) what to (...) (23 years ago, 12-Aug-01, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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| I just buzzed through Time.com and saw THIS excellent article on parenting. (URL) 23 years old, and approaching the brand new, first ever, niece/nephew event horizon in the middle of September, I've found my thoughts turning more and more to (...) (23 years ago, 1-Aug-01, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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