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In lugnet.off-topic.debate, Eric Joslin writes:
> In lugnet.off-topic.debate, Kevin Wilson writes:
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> > I personally have no interest in looking for one person to fill all my
> > needs, and I don't see that that's anyone else's business. Nor do I want to
> > try to fill all my partner's needs, nor does he want me to.
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> That's great for both of you. I note with interest that you snipped away the
> part where I said I didn't see anything wrong with dating multiple people, as
> long as *all* people involved in *all* the relationships are aware of what's
> going on. I don't see anything wrong with it at all.
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> But I don't see a difference between that and simply dating around, not taking
> any relationship to a deeper level.
I suppose it really depends on how you let the other person view the
relationship.
> I know that polyamorists like to think
> they are having a deeper relationship with all the people they're currently
> seeing, but I have to reject that idea- how deep can your relationship with X
> be if you are thinking about seeing Y later, or looking for a possible Z?
>
> And, to get to the point where it *always* breaks down- if catastrophe befell
> both X and Y at the same time, how would you choose with whom to be? If both X
> and Y reached some sort of pinnacle in their lives at the same time, with whom
> would you choose to celebrate?
I'd choose the one who needed me most.
Scott A
> You aren't really opening up and sharing your
> life with someone if there's the chance when they need you, you won't be there
> because of someone else. And, once again, that's fine with me- but it's not
> the same as committing to a single person.
>
> eric
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| (...) That's an easy answer, but I'm not so sure it would be a comfort to the person who needed you greatly but, in your opinion, not as much as the other person. Or, worse yet, felt they needed you more, but you disagreed. eric (24 years ago, 14-Dec-00, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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| (...) That's great for both of you. I note with interest that you snipped away the part where I said I didn't see anything wrong with dating multiple people, as long as *all* people involved in *all* the relationships are aware of what's going on. I (...) (24 years ago, 14-Dec-00, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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