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Lorbaat wrote in message ...
> In all my debates with polyamorists, and reading about polyamory, I've • never
> seen or heard anything to sway me from my opinion that polyamorists are
> basically either 1) copping out on looking for one person who does fill all
> their needs,
Why do you think it's important to look for one person who does fill all
ones needs, Eric? Do you think it's likely that one would find such a
person? ALL needs? Your use of the term "copping out" seems pejorative to
me: I personally have no interest in looking for one person to fill all my
needs, and I don't see that that's anyone else's business. Nor do I want to
try to fill all my partner's needs, nor does he want me to.
> trying to pass it off as "enlightened", or, even worse, some kind of inborn
> sexual preference (like being hetero-, bi-, or homo- sexual) is just a load • of
> denial.
I think there may be some inborn orientation re poly-vs-monogamy, although
it's hard to tell. Monogamy, as a requirement, never "took" on me even
though I was brought up in an environment that promoted it (traditional
family: church every week). I always had several partners (all aware of each
other) through my wild-oats-sowing years until I got married. I was
monogamous while that lasted because that was the agreement. Once that was
over, I never have been since, nor see any reason to be. I see myself as
naturally polygamous, but accept that others are naturally monogamous, and
others again might be either but can't tell.
Kevin
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| (...) That's great for both of you. I note with interest that you snipped away the part where I said I didn't see anything wrong with dating multiple people, as long as *all* people involved in *all* the relationships are aware of what's going on. I (...) (24 years ago, 14-Dec-00, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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| (...) Out of curiosity, Kevin, do you think it's impossible to find such a person? Or, conversely, do you think it's possible to find any combination of people to meet ALL of one's needs? Is it even necessary that ALL needs be met? I'm not blasting (...) (24 years ago, 14-Dec-00, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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| (...) This is pretty typical of the crap that polyamorists spew in an attempt to make themselves seem enlightened. First of all, what state is forcing morality on anyone? As far as I know, in most state adultery isn't even illegal. Many religions (...) (24 years ago, 14-Dec-00, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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