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Re: Lavender Brick Society
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lugnet.off-topic.debate
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Sat, 18 Sep 2004 15:39:35 GMT
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In lugnet.off-topic.debate, Johannes Koehler wrote:
> This is, in my opinion, one of the reasons why not-gay people may have mixed
> feelings towards gays. It's kind of offending when somebody is obtruding you the
> knowledge about his/her sexual orientation or preferences. It's not even
> necassary to be frigid or overly conservative for not wanting to know this.
> Heterosexual men don't want to be told by every woman her sexual secrets, nor do
> heterosexual women (I assume) want to be told this by every man.
Not picking on you particularly Jojo, since this has been said several times by
several people in different ways in this thread.
There are a couple of points here. Firstly, heterosexuals frequently mention
their sexual orientation. How? By referring to their Significant Other in terms
which make that person's gender clear. Every time a poster on LUGNET mentions
his or her wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend... every cake topper or wedding
announcement, birth announcement etc... tells us something (though possibly not
everything) about the sexual orientation of those involved.
So, how many people who don't want to know anyone else's sexual orientation were
offended by this?
http://news.lugnet.com/build/?n=15173
Nobody, I hope. Posts like that are perfectly appropriate. Interesting that he
didn't know quite where to put it, though. Perhaps we do need a people.het!
Secondly, knowing someone's sexual orientation is not the same as "sexual
secrets". It tells you what gender of people they fall in love with, have
partner relationships with, build a family with, have sex with. It doesn't tell
you what they do in bed. Anything of that nature is coming out of the person
hearing the declaration's imagination.
Kevin
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| (...) Verbal gymnastics from Kevin. Sexual orientation may not tell you the specific acts a particular couple performs in bed, but you'd have to be an idiot not to know THE RANGE OF POSSIBLE ACTS two men or two women might do in bed together (same (...) (20 years ago, 19-Sep-04, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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| Hello! Before I started posting to this thread I made the following decisions: 1. I would not say anything revealing my own sexual preferences, whatever they might be. 2. I would not say anything like "personally I'm not [this] but hey! if people (...) (20 years ago, 18-Sep-04, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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