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Re: Regarding praise....
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lugnet.space, lugnet.general
Date: 
Wed, 24 Jul 2002 14:07:47 GMT
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Very well said, Matt.

I also have the problems of sticky firewalls at work and slow dialup
connections at home.  I look at almost every MOC in .castle and .space and
many in .town, as well as reading certain threads in .general, .fun, etc.
But I admit that looking is not the same as posting.  Typically, I have the
desire to post comments on almost everything, but have the time/ability to
only post a few things a week.  Often, by the time I sit down at home to
post without the workplace firewall, some of the posts I had seen have been
buried in obscurity already.  Still, I try to go back and post when I can.

I've also noticed that there is a nice "I'm part of the group" feeling that
people get when someone responds to their response.  A few MOC posters out
there will post a "thanks for the comments" message to each person who did
LTKWTT.  I like that.

Anyway, I am highlighting your message.  Some posters recently have
indicated Lugnet isn't as friendly or supportive as in the past.  I think
with more philosophies like yours perhaps we can turn that around and
someday make it even friendlier...  :)

-Hendo

In lugnet.space, Matt Sekerak writes:
This subject was touched upon in a different thread, but it is a matter that
I wanted to drag further into the light, as it is very important to this
community and others like it.

The message is very simple:  Never, never be discouraged by a lack of praise
- or even a lack of criticism for that matter.

PLMKWYT is a common tag at the end of a post...we're all accustomed to
seeing this.  In my opinion, this acronym carries a LOT more weight than we
may think.  It is a direct invitation for input, approval, encouragement,
and judgement.  Indifference, however, can sometimes hurt more than
criticism.  No response at all, especially after asking for it directly, can
destroy the willingness to participate.  This, I would imagine, is
especially true for newcomers.  And to the newcomers I say don't even skip a
beat...if nobody responds to your MOC, who cares, build another, and post
it.  If nobody responds to that one, so what - build another, post it.  And
so on.

Perception also plays a role here.  Everyone reading (and typing) this often
chooses not to respond to a builder's request for input.  This can be
attributed to an infinite number of reasons ranging from a busy work
schedule to laziness!  But to the person looking for the response, the
perception is often, "They hate it."  That's not necessarily true.  I have
experienced both situations.  Often I will see a MOC and smile and say,
"neat," then I'll move on...this doesn't mean I want the builder to get
lost...I simply chose to move on.  I have also posted items that nobody
responded to - okay, a slight feeling of out-in-the-cold, but fleeting.  Now
I just charge ahead, building and posting - participating regardless of the
reaction.


-Matt


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This subject was touched upon in a different thread, but it is a matter that I wanted to drag further into the light, as it is very important to this community and others like it. The message is very simple: Never, never be discouraged by a lack of (...) (22 years ago, 23-Jul-02, to lugnet.space, lugnet.general) ! 

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