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Re: Looking for feedback.
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lugnet.off-topic.debate
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Wed, 28 Mar 2001 19:01:08 GMT
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In lugnet.off-topic.debate, Jeremy H. Sproat writes:
> In lugnet.off-topic.debate, Dave Schuler writes:
> > [...] Ultimately he presented me with a book that he felt argued his case
> > convincingly, and he hoped I would "come around" once I'd read it.
> > [...]
> > My problem is this: I consider my coworker a friend, and I certainly
> > respect him professionally, but the arguments (such as they are) that he
> > offers are logically unconvincing. How, then, do I indicate that I cannot
> > be convinced by such arguments without offending him?
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> Isn't this the classic "agree to disagree" situation? It requires effort
> from both you and him to do this.
That might be how we wind up handling it. I think he's been hoping for
more tangible resolution, but what can you do?
> Don't let him think you're convinced, but also don't let him think you're
> contemptuous either. Present yourself to him with an open mind. You may
> want to avoid debates on the issue if you can, at least for a little while
> until he realizes that his emotional investment won't pay off immediately.
> After that threshold is reached, rational and friendly discussion should
> come about much much more easily.
"Let cooler heads prevail," in other words. Good advice always! Perhaps
after a hiatus on the subject we'll be able to discuss it more neutrally.
For that matter, I may easily be overestimating the likelihood of offending him!
> Or maybe this is the coward's way out --, anywho, it's worked for me.
I think maybe I'll just spread vicious rumors about him to get him
transferred. Much easier for me, in the long run! 8^)
Thanks for the input!
Dave!
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| (...) Isn't this the classic "agree to disagree" situation? It requires effort from both you and him to do this. I don't have much to offer in terms of advice, just personal experience. I've come across this a few times in my religion (for all I (...) (25 years ago, 28-Mar-01, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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