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In lugnet.off-topic.debate, James Brown writes:
> In lugnet.off-topic.debate, Eric Joslin writes:
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> > Person A is in a relationship with both persons B and C. B and C both want A
> > to do something, and A cannot do both (what those things are doesn't matter).
> > A is forced to choose, merely by dint of being in a relationship with two
> > people simultaneously.
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> (not interested in the debate, just forgot to add .debate back into my skip
> filter, and this caught my eye)
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> If this is your argument against polyamory, then it's also your arguement
> against any kind of familial relationship.
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> Person A = parent
> Persons B & C = children
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> Life isn't fair. Sometimes you *can't* be there, whether it's for your child,
> or your husband, or your 4th co-spouse. Realizing that is part of contributing
> to any relationship.
Yes, I think I agree with you on this. Life is a series of choices.
The question that has bearing may be whether polyamory tends to give you
richer choices or tends to make you make harder compromises. That would be a
metric I'd judge it by, except that I don't think there is any easy way to
tell. Eric J may have alluded to that as well in some other posts.
Net net for me is that I don't see this as a convincing argument one way or
the other. (but if you're keeping score, I'm fine with polyamory... I just
don't think that I personally would be into it. That's different than "I
want to do it " and it's *also* different than "I don't like the fact that
people do it but I think they should be allowed to".
(answered the post since I think you're watching again)
++Lar
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| (...) I think the general truth is probably that it does both. You have open a richer body of choices and experiences, but you do also lose some things. That may include tougher compromises. Many were discussed, but they were hypothetical. The (...) (24 years ago, 19-Dec-00, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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| (...) (not interested in the debate, just forgot to add .debate back into my skip filter, and this caught my eye) If this is your argument against polyamory, then it's also your arguement against any kind of familial relationship. Person A = parent (...) (24 years ago, 15-Dec-00, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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