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Re: Regarding praise....
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lugnet.space, lugnet.general
Date: 
Wed, 24 Jul 2002 14:07:47 GMT
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Very well said, Matt.

I also have the problems of sticky firewalls at work and slow dialup
connections at home.  I look at almost every MOC in .castle and .space and
many in .town, as well as reading certain threads in .general, .fun, etc.
But I admit that looking is not the same as posting.  Typically, I have the
desire to post comments on almost everything, but have the time/ability to
only post a few things a week.  Often, by the time I sit down at home to
post without the workplace firewall, some of the posts I had seen have been
buried in obscurity already.  Still, I try to go back and post when I can.

I've also noticed that there is a nice "I'm part of the group" feeling that
people get when someone responds to their response.  A few MOC posters out
there will post a "thanks for the comments" message to each person who did
LTKWTT.  I like that.

Anyway, I am highlighting your message.  Some posters recently have
indicated Lugnet isn't as friendly or supportive as in the past.  I think
with more philosophies like yours perhaps we can turn that around and
someday make it even friendlier...  :)

-Hendo

In lugnet.space, Matt Sekerak writes:
> This subject was touched upon in a different thread, but it is a matter that
> I wanted to drag further into the light, as it is very important to this
> community and others like it.
> 
> The message is very simple:  Never, never be discouraged by a lack of praise
> - or even a lack of criticism for that matter.
> 
> PLMKWYT is a common tag at the end of a post...we're all accustomed to
> seeing this.  In my opinion, this acronym carries a LOT more weight than we
> may think.  It is a direct invitation for input, approval, encouragement,
> and judgement.  Indifference, however, can sometimes hurt more than
> criticism.  No response at all, especially after asking for it directly, can
> destroy the willingness to participate.  This, I would imagine, is
> especially true for newcomers.  And to the newcomers I say don't even skip a
> beat...if nobody responds to your MOC, who cares, build another, and post
> it.  If nobody responds to that one, so what - build another, post it.  And
> so on.
> 
> Perception also plays a role here.  Everyone reading (and typing) this often
> chooses not to respond to a builder's request for input.  This can be
> attributed to an infinite number of reasons ranging from a busy work
> schedule to laziness!  But to the person looking for the response, the
> perception is often, "They hate it."  That's not necessarily true.  I have
> experienced both situations.  Often I will see a MOC and smile and say,
> "neat," then I'll move on...this doesn't mean I want the builder to get
> lost...I simply chose to move on.  I have also posted items that nobody
> responded to - okay, a slight feeling of out-in-the-cold, but fleeting.  Now
> I just charge ahead, building and posting - participating regardless of the
> reaction.
> 
> 
> -Matt
> 
> 
> .



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This subject was touched upon in a different thread, but it is a matter that I wanted to drag further into the light, as it is very important to this community and others like it. The message is very simple: Never, never be discouraged by a lack of (...) (24 years ago, 23-Jul-02, to lugnet.space, lugnet.general) ! 

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