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In lugnet.off-topic.debate, Kevin Wilson writes:
> I snipped it away because in spite of what it said, your use of the term
> "copping out" seemed to me to show that you *did* see something wrong with
> it.
As I said to someone else, I'm not going to get bogged down in a semantic
argument.
> You didn't answer my question about the "copping out" comment, either.
This:
"Your use of the term "copping out" seems pejorative to
me: I personally have no interest in looking for one person to fill all my
needs, and I don't see that that's anyone else's business. Nor do I want to
try to fill all my partner's needs, nor does he want me to."
is a question?
> Have you tried it, Eric? Presumably no.
Really? And how do you reach that presumption? Simply based on the fact that
I don't view it as the enlightened epiphany that some polyamorists do, or that
I reject the idea that it's a sexual orientation? That's a big jump of logic,
there.
Kevin, you know nothing about my personal life, past or present, and it really
has little bearing on the conversation.
> Especially, how can you know whether it's possible for someone else?
Committing yourself to one person requires a level of trust and, well,
committment that just isn't present in an open relationship. Period.
> It happens to monogamous people too, though:
> how do you choose between your spouse and your child in those circumstances?
Straw man. Choosing between a romantic love and a familial love is NOT the
same as choosing between two romantic loves.
> On the other hand, polyamory increases the resources for help (and
> celebration) when one of the group needs it. My partner has AIDS and believe
> me, I am very glad I'm not the only person he has to turn to when he needs
> help.
That's funny, when I need extra help like this I have friends I can turn to- it
doesn't require any sort of romantic involvement.
eric
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| (...) Bull. Committing to multiple people requires MORE trust between all involved, and can involve more commitment, as you are going against "the norm" in your daily life. (...) And why do you seem to think polyamory would only involve romantic (...) (24 years ago, 14-Dec-00, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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| Lorbaat wrote in message ... (...) my (...) to (...) Too much snippage. The entire paragraph you're quoting from contained questions just before your quote: (...) I'm still interested in your answers. (...) that (...) that (...) logic, (...) A (...) (24 years ago, 14-Dec-00, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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| Lorbaat wrote in message ... (...) to (...) the (...) as (...) what's (...) I snipped it away because in spite of what it said, your use of the term "copping out" seemed to me to show that you *did* see something wrong with it. You didn't answer my (...) (24 years ago, 14-Dec-00, to lugnet.off-topic.debate)
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