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In lugnet.admin.suggestions, Cynthia Bradham wrote:
> well. This isn't how I would usually choose to out myself, but....I feel obliged
> to make some kind of response. I am a long time lego fan, and I live a gay
> lifestyle. Although it is usually not discussed, most people who know me also
> know this, or at least I assume they do. (If they choose to not get it, I don't
> feel the need to be forceful.) I find it to be quite interesting that only 2
> other gay people have responded, while the vast majority of the answers are from
> 'het's. Doesn't suggest a whole lot of need for a gay newsgroup, right? For 4
> people? Not to say that I'm against it. But is there really a need?
>
> So. With respect to the appropriateness thing: I think children can know about
> gay relationships without going into sexuality. My friend's 3 year old daughter
> understands that sometimes girls marry girls (or boys marry boys). This is no
> big deal to her. Not even very interesting.
>
> In response to the marginalization thing: I tend to agree that I don't want to
> be marginalized. Being gay is not my primary identity. There is a lot more to me
> than this lifestyle choice. In the rest of my life, I do not seek out gay
> communities, just communities. I feel strongly that it is very important to
> integrate gay people into the larger group. But, going hand in hand with this, I
> think that gay people have a responsibility to educate non-gay people that we
> are all people, all basically the same. This can't be done by hiding. Of course,
> many (most?) straight people don't need this education, but there are still
> those who do. Certain family members and work mates come prominantly to mind....
>
> About gay MOCs. I brought a castle to BrickFest this year. I was going to have
> it inhabited by 2 women (because I would like to be living in my castle), but I
> reconsidered and only put in one. I know that I could have put 2 and probably no
> one would have noticed and said 'hmm, are they just friends? But there's only
> one bed...', but I didn't feel comfortable because I don't really know how this
> community feels about gayness. I suppose I shouldn't care. But I think all gay
> people, when approaching a new/unknown set of people, proceed with caution.
>
> So, I suspect that part of Teddy's intentions may be to get a better sense of
> how this community as a whole feels about our subgroup.
>
> Cyndi
Hi Cyndi, your post is probably one of the better reasoned ones I've read on
this issue. Lots of 'hets' are not opposed to the idea because people are gay
(it may be a factor for some, and some don't care at all), but because they are
opposed to ANY groups splintering off for reasons that have nothing to do with
Lego in the first place (ie religious, sexual, racial, political, whatever).
That was for me the great thing about LUGNET. I never thought about any of that
stuff when looking at peoples' posts. Nobody cares about my politics, or faith,
or what form of economics I think works best in America. I just wanted to see
what they made, trade building tips, find Lego sales... I mean, I still can't
believe I'm posting on LUGNET about sexual preference/orientation issues.
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